Ask the Important question: to yourself and them to see what it is between both of you such as (dating, seeing each other, boyfriend/girlfriend,engaged) see if that person wants to only be with you or if they still want to date others. I know it will be hard and awkward to ask but it will save you from getting a headache or misunderstanding them later. Even ask them : are you willing to relocation if this relationship become more serious? or what are you looking to get out of this relationship?
Once you know for sure where your relationship stands. you both should make sure you both have a way to get a hold of each other to talk and start getting to know each other more. like a phone, computer, Skype or face time (KEEP IN MIND THEY SHOULD NOT HAVE NO REASON TO BE ABLE TO CONTACT YOU)
Do things together: As a long distance couple is it important to do thing together beside just calling each other on the phone, you can watch a movie together if you both have Netflix or you both rent the same movie & you both can make it over the computer together, playing games, play 20 questions ,read books, Tv shows . you can both watch a movie you both have been wanting to see & after the movie is over you can talk about it.
make sure that both of you are trying to put in a 100% into the relationship the key to keep this relationship going is keeping in touch with each other everyday or as much as you can! So use Skype video chat, texting, phone calls or email everyday. Its very important that you do this!
You should set reminders for that persons, birthday or a special event so you can try to go or send them a gift. if you do not have much money try to get a job then save up for a few months then go down to visit them so they know you want to see them just as much as they wanna see you.
Take time to see the benefits from this relationship: but the more you spend away from your partner the more you want to be with them but you don't have to stare your toothbrush or get mad if they don't do something you want & you don't fight as much but you also get to spend more time with your friends and family. being apart gives you a chance to maintain your individuality with in the relationship. That is something that gets lost between couples who spend most of there free time together.
Avoid trying to be controlling: everyone has free will and no one should try to control another person. As long as you both are interested in being in a relationship together you will stick with it and the distance between you will not make a difference. once you deices that it is not working or that someone else is a better match your relationship ends when there is 3000 miles between both of you. You will have to trust that person completely if you want the relationship to work.
Try to challenge each other: you my find that doing this will motivate you to do something you haven't done before or that you may have not done on your own.
Talk about your future together: assuming that is what you both want. (living together) talk bout how you are going to get to that point when getting to this point it will prove to each other that this relationship is going some where.
Remember: things will get better with time, even the relationship it self will become better (have hope)
Visit Often: Try to make the time to visit each other as much as possible a relationship cannot survive based off only phone calls, you need to see each other face to face ever chance you get.
Avoid jealousy: one of the easiest way to a perfect healthy relationship is not to make drama or be jealous, when you start a long distance relationship you must realistic that there are going to be hard times ahead. its best to start a relationship thinking that everyone is innocent & worth trusting until proven wrong. Don't fall into a trap thinking your partner is doing something bad every time they go out with friends you have not met or if you call them and they don't answer the phone right away. Just because you have a long distance relationship DOES NOT MEAN YOUR LIFE IS ON PAUSE. Your partner will have a social life where they live and so should you! you both should have a social life and still be happy with each other.
Stay positive: being positive in a long distance relationship is very important to keep your relationship blooming, being away from your loved one is not all bad news.
This is some of the good things about it.
- makes you both more interested in each others hobbies and personal interests
- makes you both more creative to communicate seems you don't have face to face
- it test your true feelings for each other
As long as you seen long distance dating as a temporary thing you will keep you chin up.
Give then a personal item of yours in a time of need or when they miss you with that they are able yo hold on to something that belongs to you. it brings happiness, comfort and wonderful thoughts of you.
Keep in mind that that in any relationship both of the people should work towards a balance in the relationship be strong for one another, trusting and understanding make a wonderful relationship both of you should be putting in a 100% into it, be reasonable and compromise with each other. Ask some questions because your partner may think you are losing interest! Remember that you are still in a relationship so that means if your partner is in trouble or hurt you have to be there for them, make sure you are available to be reached if needed if they have to go throw it alone they will end up not needing you at all and that means being there in personal.
Because time together may be rare you need to make the most of it and spend as much time together doing fun stuff that you both will love to do, take as many pictures as you can and make many memories and talk to them about it so you both can relive them together because if you don't the relationship will fade over time so try to make the feeling last as long as you can.
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